Baby name regret is real.
According to BabyCenter, 11 percent of parents admit to having serious second thoughts about the names they picked for their children. Some of them are so worried about having made the wrong choice that they decide to legally change their kids’ names. If the baby is a few days old, I suppose it wouldn’t make much difference. But what if she’s weeks or months old? What if you’ve already sent out the birth announcements and introduced her family and friends? At what point does it become a little too late to make a name change?
One anxious mom took to the internet recently with that very question.
The anonymous UK mama wrote about her dilemma on Mumsnet: “I named her Autumn,” she says of her 10-month-old baby. “I really like the look of it and the sound of it in my head. Since using it as a name, it doesn’t seem to work as well as it did in my head? Lots of people don’t get it.”
The biggest culprit is the poster’s own mother, who seems pretty relentless in her criticism of her grandchild’s name: “My mum actually makes jokes about it – ‘I can’t wait to see my grandaughter who hasn’t got a proper name’ or she directly speaks to her and says ‘you might as well have been named Season.’ No one else really says anything, but I feel like they think the same. I’m just really close to my mum, so she probably feels like she can say it.”
She continues, “She has wanted her to be Matilda for years. Matthew for a boy… I often hear her say ‘you’d like to be a little Tilly wouldn’t you?’ I’ve cried in front of her about it and she says she’ll be crying many more tears when she goes to school. I love my mum, but I just don’t know how to get past this.”
Based on grandma’s reaction, you’d think the baby had been named something really strange. Autumn isn’t all that unusual – according to BabyCenter stats, it ranked #65 for girls in 2016. Her behavior is totally over the top and borderline unacceptable, in my opinion. Her daughter is in tears over this and she still won’t just let it go? She had the chance to pick the perfect monikers for her own kids. Her baby naming days are over.
As for the question of how old is too old for a name change, BabyCenter expert Dale Atkins advises, “Names are very important to one’s sense of self and identity, so it’s best to make any changes while your child is still a baby or, at the very latest, before she turns 2. Otherwise, it can be quite confusing for her.”
If you have sincere and personal regret over your choice, that’s one thing, but I think you have to be wary of changing your kid’s name just because someone else doesn’t particularly like it. If there is one thing you quickly learn when you’re pregnant, it’s that absolutely everyone will have an opinion when it comes to baby names. It’s unlikely you’ll be able to please them all.
via BabyCenter Blog ift.tt/2wAF0pp